Taking Part or Not Dilemma

Which is More Exciting?

When I’m writing hotwife stories, there’s one dilemma I often face that changes everything about the story’s climax: should the husband take part, or should he watch from the sidelines? Each choice shapes the story differently, and as a writer, I find this decision fascinating.

To Join or Not to Join?

After all the build-up—flirting, resisting, and finally letting go—the wife surrenders to desire. Her journey to this point is one of temptation and exploration, and I often enjoy crafting that experience from her perspective. But what about the husband? Should he dive in alongside her, or is his excitement heightened by staying on the sidelines, not knowing what’s unfolding in the other room?

In some of my stories, the husband actively participates, adding layers of intimacy and shared excitement. For example, in the Wilderness Desires series, the husband’s involvement brings a whole new dynamic to the encounter. But sometimes, it’s equally thrilling when he waits and wonders, letting his imagination fill in the gaps. That’s the case in Lorri’s Promotion, where the husband’s arousal is fuelled by mystery and anticipation.

Finding a Middle Ground

Of course, there are times when I choose a compromise. In Abby’s Unusual First Time, the husband may not fully take part, but he’s still close enough to experience the tension. It raises an interesting question: is just watching—or even just receiving a little attention—truly “taking part”?

And occasionally, I like to blur the lines entirely, as I did in Cheating on My Hotwife in the South of France and the Wife Tries Something New series. These stories explore both scenarios, with the husband switching roles, sometimes participating and other times holding back.

The Queen and Her Watchful King

For the hotwife, the thrill of newness and the sensation of being desired make her feel like royalty. But for the husband, it’s often a tug of war between arousal and jealousy—made more complex by whether he’s directly involved or left to ponder. So, I ask myself, what will bring the most excitement for both characters?

What Do You Think?

Now, I’d love to hear from you. Do you prefer stories where the husband takes part, watches from afar, or waits to hear all the juicy details later? Leave a comment below or feel free to email me at [email protected]. I’d love to know your thoughts!


Curious about the Stories?

Here are links to the stories I mentioned, in case you’d like to check them out:

Best,
Alex

4 responses to “Taking Part or Not Dilemma”

  1. Richard avatar
    Richard

    Hi Alex, I’m a fan of yours and have read all your books. Lorri’s Promotion and Abby’s Unusual First Time are among my favourites, so I guess I lean towards watching, mostly. But I also enjoy the taking part if it’s done well, as it is in your stories. Keep up the good work! Looking forward to Abby’s sequel and the cruise adventure.

    1. Alex Lee avatar
      Alex Lee

      Hi Richard,
      Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m really glad to hear that you enjoyed Lorri’s Promotion and Abby’s Unusual First Time. It’s great to know that you appreciate both the watching and participating aspects when done well—it’s something I work hard on in my stories.
      I’m currently deep into Abby’s sequel and the cruise adventure, so stay tuned for more updates. Your feedback is always welcome, so feel free to share your thoughts anytime!
      Best,
      Alex

  2. Denis avatar
    Denis

    Such an intriguing dilemma, Alex! I personally love it when the husband stays on the sidelines —it adds so much suspense and mystery!

  3. Igor avatar
    Igor

    It’s something I’ve thought about while reading hotwife stories. There’s something uniquely thrilling about the husband watching from the sidelines or waiting to hear the details afterward—it adds a level of tension and mystery that really enhances the excitement. The imagination plays a huge role in those moments, and not knowing exactly what’s happening makes it even hotter.

    When the husband takes part, it creates a different dynamic that feels more intimate, like they’re sharing something special. I think it depends on the characters and the story, but I definitely enjoy a mix of both scenarios!

    Looking forward to checking out Lorri’s Promotion and Abby’s Unusual First Time. Keep up the great writing!

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